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Elsie & Nelly

I am 67 and a full-time carer to my Mum, Nelly. We’ve been coming to the Age NI day centre in Castlewellan for about 9 years.

My Mum really enjoys getting out and about and the Age NI carers are amazing with her.They treat her with so much dignity and respect. They see Nelly, not Nelly with dementia. Because of them, I get a little ‘me time’. I rely so much on the respite the day centre gives. It is a blessing and a relief.

Looking back, the change in my Mum happened very unexpectedly. She was getting quite anxious and having moodswings. I now know that her behaviour was because of dementia. The day centre carers really help her to feel at calm and ease.

Mum and I still share a love of music. She’s a great singer, and I love to hear her sing in the day centre because then I know that she’s in a happy place. She sounds like the Mum I knew before dementia took hold of her, and that makes me happy too.

Elsie & Nelly

'The alarm has been literally life-changing.'

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