We had been married for 44 years and we had no children, so our worlds had always revolved around each other. We had spent 17 years in rented accommodation which had badly deteriorated over the years. It had no central heating, draughty doors and windows and was very damp. Hot water was at a premium as we were scared about turning on the immersion heater in case bills rocketed. We struggled to make ends meet and we did...just about. We had no idea at the time that we might have any other options. There was never any money left over to save for a rainy day. Every day was a rainy one! But we coped and we had each other.
In the days and weeks after my wife’s funeral I was so unhappy. I didn’t want to tell anybody how bad things were and truthfully, I often cried myself to sleep. Matters eventually came to a head when I fell and broke several ribs. I finally confided in a close friend just how bad things had become and that’s when she contacted Age NI for me.
I was in pain, I was scared and I felt very low. But with the help of the Age NI Advice Service, suddenly I realised I was not alone. Age NI worked with me to get help with my money worries, to move home, to have a second chance at life. My life has totally transformed. In less then six months I changed from a depressed, broken man to a man who views the world in a new light. I have a lovely, secure, affordable place to live. I am making new friends. However difficult life may seem, help is at hand. You must ask. I nearly didn’t and look what I would have missed out on.
I would love to think that somebody reading this could be helped as I was. Just lift that phone to Age NI and see what you might be entitled to. Everything is totally confidential. What have you to lose? Don’t wait!
Together we can help older people make the most of later life