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Gordon's Story

Gordon is in his 50s and had always considered himself to be heterosexual; he’d had several relationships with women and was married for the second time. There were times though, when he was curious about having sex with a man but this never went further than a thought. One night, he went out without his wife, got very drunk and ended up having sex with a man.

Gordon enjoyed the experience and sought more opportunities to have sex with men. Eventually, he decided that he was gay and told his wife. She was not surprised, as their lives had become more and more separate during this time. She asked Gordon if he had indulged in safe sex, (used a condom), which he admitted he had not always done. She advised him to have an HIV test, which was positive.

Gordon and his wife divorced, but remain friends, Gordon has his HIV under control with medication and leads a happy and healthy life.