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Your changing relationship

When you become a carer for someone it can be difficult to know how to deal with your changing relationship with them.

In the early stages of caring for someone you should try to keep things as normal as possible and carry on doing things you both enjoy. Try to do things with the person, rather than for them, so that they stay involved in daily household life and don’t feel like you’re patronising them. They may still be able to complete tasks, but just need a little more time.

As the person’s condition deteriorates you may find that your relationship changes with them even more, and this is especially true if you’re caring for someone with dementia.

If you’re caring for a partner you may find yourself feeling more like a parent than a spouse. The Alzheimer’s Society factsheet Sex and dementia looks at ways in which people can adapt their relationship so that they remain loving and close to their partner.

Further information


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For more information: Call Age UK Advice: 0800 678 1174

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